As a young one, I was told do good to people, help others and God blesses you. Like many things they say, like many things parents teach, I did it sometimes. Not always. There were opportunities where I could have helped people. I didn't. Regretted genuinely. There were also occasions where I couldn't help people I still tried to. Sometimes I did help. But when I helped, on each occasion I did it full of my will, conviction and unconditionally and passionately.
Now, this topic is all about that last part "Passionately". This is where we all go wrong. People whom we help, we should be do so with zero emotions. It is hard to do so. But it is a must. Because the people whom you help, prefer to avoid you and in normal life they prefer to interact with people who were neutral during their needy times!!! Have you noticed it? If not good. You have been so busy not noticing it and your help litmus test is passed. You did it dispassionately.
I am not at all advocating don't help people. Help them, guide them, offer them. But when you do it don't make it obligatory. Don't recall of it. Rather have a long distance and create a void after you help. Don't follow up at all. Stay away and observe from distance if they are ok. If these people matter to you in everyday occasions, just create an absence. Otherwise, you are giving an emotional burden to them or a threat of obligation in their future, and they avoid it at all costs. This will hurt you unless you are dispassionate and detached.
There are exceptions to this. Especially if the one helped is your husband. Every help done to husband is obligatory and make sure he returns the favour (:) just joking.
As we go along with life random helping is act of kindness. It should be part of our personality. But detachment to that act is equally important.
Like Krishna said "Karmani Eva Adhikaraha Te, Maa phaleshu.....). That strong statement. .see !
